My husband and I have been working on a new blog idea for awhile and we’ve recently launched it. I wrote this post for that blog but thought I’d share it here too. Check out the other site too if you’d like! It’s called Status Quo Rebels.
It seems to be becoming more and more popular for people to give up and walk out on their marriages. I actually know of about four or five couples just within the last few months who have called it quits and decided to get divorced. I can’t even tell you how much that breaks my heart. Marriage is meant to be forever – not just until you don’t feel like it anymore. I’m not trying to minimize what anyone is going through, and I know there are legitimate reasons for people to divorce, but there are way too many people who could fight for their marriage and win – they just choose not to. That is what makes me sad. Why is it happening? Why don’t people fight for it?
My husband and I have been there so I know it can be done. We went through a time where we just really couldn’t stand each other. We felt lost and hopeless in our marriage and didn’t know what to do. But we were determined to do something because we agreed that divorce was not the answer. We sought counseling at church with our pastor and then we sought professional counseling and gave that a go for awhile. And you know what? It worked! Our marriage has been amazing since then! Of course, we still have our ups and downs and we still have times when we annoy each other, but we have never gotten to that point again where we felt so hopeless. Because we took control, we fought for what we wanted and what we knew was right, we believed that God could restore our marriage and He DID!
If you’re in that place where you feel like you can’t stay married, if you feel like you just don’t know what to do but you want to do something – start here. Watch this series from our church, Lifechurch.tv, on marriage and honestly work on it and let God show you what He can do.
There is a song that’s been playing on the radio quite a bit recently and it really speaks to me because I feel like this is such an issue in our country. It’s called Restore by Chris August. Read these lyrics and listen to the song – tell me it doesn’t make you want to work on your marriage! Don’t give up! Fight for your spouse and your family! They deserve it.
Nobody’s growing old together, we’ve made it easy just to quit
Love has become a negative percentage, why do we bother to commit
We’ve got a long list of excuses, ways we try to justify
Well, I propose to you the truth is, marriage does not have to die
I know you’re feeling like it’s falling apart and it can’t go on anymore
But God is a God who knows how to heal so just give it up to the Lord
And He will restore
He said with this ring I promise, and with I do she said forever
But right now if they’re being honest they don’t know if they’ll stay together
Let’s fast forward to the future after struggling on their own
They finally figured out they needed Jesus in the middle
Now I’m watching God rebuild their home
The enemy tries to come and divide
Trying to get us to give up the fight
But darkness will always lose out to light
‘Cause we’ve got the power of Christ on our side
I see you growing old together
I pray I find a love like yours
So if you’re feeling like it’s falling apart and it can’t go on anymore
God is a God who knows how to heal so just give it up to the Lord
And He will restore
Like it was before
You may have strayed off course
But He will restore